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.action_button.action_button:active.action_button:hover.action_button:focus,.action_button:hover.action_button:focus .count,.action_button:hover .count.action_button:focus .count:before,.action_button:hover .count:bullet. Error Banner.fade_out.modal_overlay.modal_overlay .modal_wrapper.modal_overlay [email protected](max-width:630px)@media(max-width:630px).modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:hover:before. I am currently dating a woman that I am absolutely in love with. She was raped as a teenager at a college fraternity house by multiple men. It would be a good idea for her to find a therapist and try to get some help. It is making me say and do things I normally wouldn't do. I usually don't get too close to people because Im afraid they'll hurt me again.She remembers some parts of it and it was traumatic to say the least. I think you could tell her that you will be there for her no matter what, if she needs to vent or if she just needs someone to talk to. It has to be someone who she feels comfortable with and who she can really talk to. The pain goes into me also and she doesn't understand that I was raped also. I have an amazing boyfriend for two years now, and he supports me everyday.For example, I referred to “darker times,” or mentioned that I saw a therapist regularly.When I started volunteering at the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center as a medical advocate and then as a survivor speaker, I found ways to drop volunteer experiences into the conversation.
It's incredibly painful to watch a person you love go through a trauma like rape and you might not know how to support a rape victim.
Sex would make her feel dirty at times and her interest in it is very low. It is her body and I want her to know that she has full control of her body. The outcome that she exhibited was not warranted from our disagreements. What happened to her is , but it's something in life you (more her) have to get over.
Sometimes when we get in even the smallest dis-agreement- she will end up in a corner literally pulling her hair out saying things like I just want to die, I am a crazy person and things that are really signs of deep hurt. I talked with someone recently (specialist) that said this is probably a symptom of post-traumatic syndrome. Ironically, she almost broke up with me because she couldn't handle those episodes that she went into. I was told to back off and realize that it's not me- its her. I just think everything could be worse I really think she needs professional help, it worked for me. Being strong and talking about what happened is the best cure.
Or to be so up front.“I may be a lesbian because of what happened to me, I don’t know.
It doesn’t really matter at this point.”I guess, maybe in some way, I didn’t expect her to be so it.
She also never feels like she pleases me and this can send her into these funks???? For the longest time I couldn't figure out what I was doing to send her into this state. I want to find ways to support her and love her because of what has happened to her. It worked for me I dont know if this will be hepful.